Since coming back to the US for a visit I've been experiencing various kinds of culture shock. I talked about it with a Kenyan colleague who works in North Carolina: he feels the same way when he goes back to Nairobi.
One of the culture shock items is lack of help to do things. For example, at the office, nobody brings tea. I left the tea cup on my desk, and the next morning it was still there! (And nobody had wiped off my desk either.) The first day I got back to the US I was in my mother's house alone. So I had to make myself dinner. This wasn't as bad as the next morning: the dinner dishes were still sitting on the counter. Bother! Tonight after dinner I couldn't get out of my friend's house, because she had it locked. (She didn't have any guards, so locking the house when inside was necessary.)
This all reminds me of the first time my Indian colleague Menakshi came to the US. When she was leaving I asked her some impressions. The first words out of her mouth were "I feel sorry for you people. You have to do everything yourselves. You don't have any help at all."
Sure, domestic help is expensive in the US and relatively cheap in Ethiopia. But why is it people will spend $1/2 million on a huge house for two people; or $50,000 on the latest SUV as big as a house trailer, but won't spend a few hundred bucks on someone to help with the housework? "You people" in the US are really hard to figure out in some ways.